Workshops & Programs
Five ways into the work.
Most couples do not need another generic communication tip.
They need to understand why the same fight keeps coming back, why one person feels unseen, why the other feels misunderstood, and why two capable people can end up arguing from completely different versions of the same life.
Battles Insights workshops and programs help couples, leadership pairs, and groups get to the real conversation without turning the room into a courtroom drama.
There are five formats for that work, plus the free assessment most people start with. The right one depends on whether you are working on this alone or with your partner, whether you have a couple of hours or a few months, and whether the work needs to happen in your living room or in front of a room of people.
Where to start, by situation
If you are one person trying to sort what is actually happening before trying again with your partner, start with the Realignment Lab.
If you and your partner are ready to face the conversation you have been avoiding, look at The Fight That Keeps Coming Back or The Conversations That Change the Pattern.
If you want this work brought into a leadership group, conference, retreat, or organization, look at The Business of Us or its 90-minute keynote version.
If you are not yet sure what pattern you are in, take the Conversation Cores Assessment first.
90-Minute Solo Workshop
Realignment Lab
A focused session for one person who knows something is off in the relationship but needs help sorting out what is actually happening before trying another conversation that ends the same way as the last one.
The Realignment Lab is for the partner who has been doing the noticing. The one who has been keeping track of what is happening between you. The one who is tired of being the only one who seems to register that something is wrong, and is starting to wonder if they are the problem because they keep bringing it up.
You are not the problem. You are the one who can see something the conversation has not yet held. This session helps you sort that out, name what you are actually seeing, and figure out what the next move is, on your own, before you try anything with your partner.
You leave with a clearer read on what has been happening, language for the part you have been struggling to name, and one specific thing to try this week.
6-Week Intensive for couples
The Fight That Keeps Coming Back
Six weekly sessions for couples who need to stop circling the hard conversation and finally deal with it directly.
This is for couples who already know there is something they need to talk about and have not been able to get to it. The fight that keeps coming back. The decision that keeps getting deferred. The thing one of you has been trying to say for months and the other one has been hearing as an attack.
Each week takes one piece of what has been broken in your conversations and works through it together. The arc covers the original fight underneath the recurring one, the invisible work that has been distributed in silence, the money conversation that is almost never about money, the roles you each play that you never quite chose, who you are becoming inside the relationship that your partner may not be tracking, and the shared language you build at the end so the work does not stop when the program does.
You leave with a written communication guide built specifically for your relationship, not a generic worksheet. Ten questions answered in your own words about your specific dynamic. The guide is yours, and you keep using it after the program ends.
6-Month Program for couples
The Conversations That Change the Pattern
Six monthly sessions for couples who need more time, more practice, and a deeper process for changing the repeat fights that keep coming back.
This program covers the same six topics as the 6-week intensive: foundation, time, money, roles, identity, and shared language. It runs at a different pace and with more depth. Each session follows an Education, Exercise, and Execution structure. You learn what is actually happening in the recurring pattern, you do the work in the room together, and you leave with a specific practice for the month between sessions.
The point of the longer format is integration. Reading about a pattern does not change it. Doing one conversation differently does not change it. What changes a pattern is doing the work, going home, watching what comes up in real life, coming back to look at it with new information, and building on what the previous month showed you. That is what the six months are for.
This program is for couples who are not trying to get through one hard conversation. They are trying to change the repeat cycle that keeps dragging them back into the same place.
You leave with a complete communication guide built across the six months. Eleven sections. Specific to your relationship. A living document you keep updating as things change.
Full-day workshop,
co-facilitated with Jake Finkelstein
The Business of Us
A full-day workshop for couples, leadership groups, and organizations where ambition, money, roles, business pressure, and home life are all tangled together.
Most relationship content is built from the outside. A researcher who studied couples. A therapist who worked with them. A framework that was applied to them. What Jake and I bring is different. We are the data. We built the Conversation Cores Method out of the failure mode we lived in our own marriage for ten years, and the relationship we have now is the proof of concept.
The Business of Us is for couples who have built something together. A business, a household, a family, a partnership that is functioning well enough on the outside while something quieter is going wrong on the inside. The kind of partnership that has financial governance for the company and almost no governance for the marriage that makes the company possible.
The workshop is structured in four parts. The Audit is where you make the invisible visible by mapping what each of you is actually carrying. The Financial Architecture is where Jake walks the room through what money is really standing in for in high-achieving partnerships. The Communication Protocol is where I introduce the Conversation Cores and you map your specific pairing. The Operating Agreement is where you build a written, one-page document together. Roles. Decision thresholds. Communication protocol. Quarterly review. A functional document, not a sentimental one.
Maximum of 12 couples per workshop for full facilitation quality.
Best for executive retreats, peer community programming, leadership offsites, and corporate benefit programs that include partner inclusion.
90-minute keynote and workshop
The Business of Us: Keynote Version
A shorter version of The Business of Us built for conferences, retreats, leadership groups, and events where the room needs a direct introduction to the cost of unspoken roles and repeat conflict.
The format is a 45-minute keynote followed by a 45-minute guided exercise. The keynote covers the financial architecture and the structural problem of asymmetric labor in high-achieving partnerships. The exercise gets each couple started on a partial operating agreement they can finish at home.
This is the version booked for EO and YPO chapter programming, Vistage groups, founder retreats, leadership conferences, and any event where partners are present and the room is ready for something more direct than a typical wellness session.
The keynote can also be shortened to 60 or 75 minutes for tighter programming windows.
Free
Conversation Cores Assessment
A short assessment that maps your primary and backup Conversation Cores and gives you a first read on the pattern affecting your conversations. Most people start here.
It takes about ten minutes. You get your result by email. There is nothing to install. Your partner can take it separately and you can compare results.
Where to start
If you are looking at this page and unsure which one fits, the simplest thing is a 15-minute call. We can talk through what has been happening and figure out which format is right for where you actually are.
